1.Embarrassed you and put you down. 2.Control what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go. 3. Stop you from seeing your friends or family. 4. Take your money, make you ask him for it, refuse to give you money. 5. Act like the abuse is no big deal, and it is your fault or deny doing it.6. Threaten to kill you in a joking manner.

My book "Real Men Don't Abuse Women", I attempted to show the horror of abuse through my experience, both in my childhood and in my professional life. I am very fortunate for who I became and my new values in life. God have given me a message and I will tell it wherever I go. I had to self published my book. I think anyone that read my book will gain some knowledge about family violence

Domestic violence in the home strikes at the heart of our society. Much of family violence is learned. The home, not the street is the "nursery school" for violence. Family violence has an everlasting effect on children. The violence that my siblings as well as I seem as kids have effecting all of us in many different ways. I know two individuals that I brought diapers when they were babies. Today they are doing life in prison, without the possibility of pardon. I not making excuses for them. Their fathers were very abusive to their family.